We love marriage. We love dreaming about it, planning it, making it happen, breaking it apart, and starting it all over again. What do women talk about when they meet? Marriage! The happiness of marriage. The hell of marriage. Their upcoming marriage. Their last marriage. The joy of marriage. The anxiety of marriage.

And yet, the phrase that is heard most often, just one year after marriage, is: "What is happening to me? Where did the woman I was before getting married go?" What is it that makes dynamic, educated, confident women feel like they are losing themselves when they find themselves in the role they believed would bring them eternal happiness?

Dalma Heyn does not deny the institution of marriage. However, her interest does not focus on what it means to be a "good wife" or how a "good wife" should be, but on what is "good" for a wife, what good a woman can derive within the framework of her marriage: what is required for her to feel safe, meet her needs, fulfill her desires and wishes, and most importantly, not lose herself.